I was having some girl talk with friends from high school and one of them were talking about how this guy left her 'hanging'. They start off as very good friends, become ultra close, and the next thing you know, she is left hanging in the air...after she starts developing feelings for said "guy friend". 

This is not an unusual story.

But a lot of guys are like that, no? 

My friend, like a mature adult, had no trouble being confrontational and laid down her sentiments (and feelings!) on the table. And then she gets ignored. No acceptance, no rejection, nada, nothing.

So I say, no response IS a response. 

If a guy is interested but shy, he will probably show this in his actions, and maybe even reciprocate the girl's confession. He may not do it with an equally bold gesture, but he probably won't ignore her either. 

If a guy is not interested, he will probably either: 1) vocalize this, hard and awkward as it may be for the girl; or, 2) ignore her completely because he's too taken aback or too afraid to hurt the girl's feelings. The latter has no valid reason. At all.

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Guys are like that, men are not.  (This may call for another blog entry, haha!)

The point is, ladies have this tendency to over-analyze situations and peoples' actions, including guys' inaction. Ladies become delusional and cling unto the tiniest thread of hope, even when guys show no response in any of their actions at all. 

Honestly, no response IS a response. I suppose this is difficult for a lot of ladies to gulp down because in their heads, they've already imagined a beautiful scenery where she's walking through a park with the guy she's interested in, hand in hand, and they will live happily ever after. This isn't reality; this is a trap.  

If a guy doesn't reciprocate your feelings or if he doesn't show the slightest concrete interest in you, please, ladies, let it go, and move on. Don't waste your time dwelling on what could be; sa totoo lang, sayang ang oras at ang emosyon. It will only cause one to have anxieties, or worse, form bitterness in one's heart (because certain pains can do that). 

Don't settle, don't compromise, don't overthink. Just be yourself and wait for the man who will boldly step up and lay down his intentions. Know your worth, girl.